How to Build Self Confidence --
We all want to learn how to build self confidence and be sure of
ourselves. Self confidence brings out the best in us. When we are
confident we show the world that we feel good about ourselves and our
place in the world. Here are seven tips that can teach you how to build self confidence and change your life.
These are the Seven Tips
on How to Build Self Confidence
- Keep a running tally of good decisions that you have made. In a small
journal or notebook write down every time you make a good decision for
about two weeks. This should take the form of “checked traffic reports
and changed my route to work so I was on time”, “resolved customer
problem”, etc. At the end of two weeks, read over the sum total of your
good decisions. Ignore any bad decisions. Tell yourself that you make
good decisions and allow yourself to feel how great that feels. Keep
doing this and make it a habit. Soon you’ll find that you think of
yourself as someone who makes good decisions and the number of bad
decisions will diminish.
- Making a list of all the people in your life who think you are
terrific is a great way to teach you how to build self confidence. Go back as far as you
need to get a substantial list—even to teachers who gave you
encouragement. This list is longer than you think and there are a lot of
people who think you’re great, but never told you so. Take a few
minutes to reflect on each person on the list and how good they make you
feel. I recently
to a colleague from my days at Mattel. I wasn’t really sure he would
remember me, but I gave it a shot. He did remember me and wrote, to my
surprise, “I remember that you always had a smile on your face at Toy
Fair when everyone else looked miserable.” My surprise was that I
thought I had been the most miserable person there, but he thought I
- If someone criticizes you, take an honest look at what was said.
If they are speaking the truth, own it and vow to change your behavior
to a new, better behavior. Be honest and thank that person for pointing
it out and tell them you are going to change. If, however, after close
examination you determine that you were not at fault don’t beat yourself
up. Many times we have such an emotional reaction to
that we immediately start to feel bad, even though we have done nothing
wrong. If you find yourself in this situation, ask yourself why this
particular person would criticize you. Is this person projecting their
own issue onto you? Are they unhappy in their own life and want to make
you unhappy too? Whatever their reason, if you are wrongly criticized
don’t let it get you down. It’s best to forget about whatever occurred.
Don’t keep thinking about it because research has shown that each time
you recall an unpleasant situation it’s like it is happening over and
over again. Let it go. It's a great way to learn how to build self confidence, make your
life happier and keep you healthier.
- Perform your job to the best of your ability. Having the
knowledge that you’re doing a good job will build your self confidence.
Don’t wait for feedback from your boss, ask for it. Make sure that you
understand exactly what is expected of you and make every effort to do
what is expected. Also make sure that your boss is aware of what you are
doing. I once worked for a boss who was not very engaged. I didn’t get
much face-time with him and I wasn’t at all sure that he trusted me. I
was very sure that he wasn’t aware of how hard I was working and how
many problems I was solving. My brother, a veteran sales manager who was
used to working in a satellite office situation, gave me some great
advice. He said to create a monthly report for my boss, even though the
boss had not asked for it. I did just that, giving my boss a grid of
past and current sales numbers, outlining the issues I had faced and
what I had done to resolve them and asking for his guidance on issues I
couldn’t figure out. My boss received the first report, and came into my
office with a big smile on his face. He said he loved the new report
and to keep it up. Our relationship was positively changed from that
moment forward. Figuring out how to turn around a situation is a great way to learn how to build self confidence.
- Test the market for your position with a job search, even if you
are not looking for a new job. This one is tricky as you have to make
sure that your current employer doesn’t learn that you are conducting a
job search. Finding out how much you are worth on the open market will
build your self confidence and help you when review time comes around.
You may be able to do this with a simple review of a salary survey
to see where you fall within the salary guidelines. This information is
widely available on the internet. Be sure you know your worth
and keep the information current. It will help you make decisions about
your career and your future.
- Pay down any consumer debt you owe and start to save money.
Nothing can erode your self confidence like not having control of your
finances. Paying off your debts will give you tremendous personal power
and a feeling of total control over your life. This may sound simple in
concept but it is very difficult for most people to do. If you are in
debt, adjust your lifestyle to fit your income. That could include
getting rid of expensive spending habits like excessive eating out, a
double latte every morning or buying unnecessary clothing.
- Take your savings and invest it in a secure, long-term
investment. You can build tremendous self confidence by knowing that you
have a secure nest egg in case you need it. Almost everyone will have
to tap this resource at some time during their working life so if you
don’t have money saved, you need to start immediately. Keep adding to
this savings with your retirement in mind. It gives you tremendous
confidence to know that you can retire early if you choose.
I hope that you have found something in these seven tips that can
teach you how to build self confidence. What teaches you how to build
self confidence? If you would like to share your story,
please contact me here.
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