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Go Beyond Positive Affirmations
to Change Your Life

We’re told that positive affirmations and positive thinking are the key to self motivation. It’s all based on your mind—it’s what drives everything in your life. Your mind can conquer anything, we are told. If you just have the right mindset you will have everything you desire—the right education, the right job, the right partner. And you will attract anything and everything you want in your life.

Is this really true, or just something we’ve been sold? I come to you as a veteran of repeating positive affirmation after positive affirmation and not really seeing any consistent results. Maybe you’ve done this too. It’s discouraging, isn’t it? Maybe you, too, had some initial success after you have done these positive affirmations to change your mind or your “limiting beliefs” but then it doesn’t last. You’re right back in the same old boat, stuck in a rut and not being able to create anything you want and frustrated with creating new positive affirmations. In fact, you find yourself creating exactly what you DON’T want. So you start beating yourself up because you either didn’t change the mindset, you didn’t try hard enough or you used the wrong positive affirmation. Any of these situations imply that you are somehow less than you should be.

Positive Affirmations Will Only Take Us so Far

We are first told that we are “less than” when we enter school. The idea is that in our natural state we will never be successful. We’re told that we have to work hard if we are to succeed. Hard work and struggle will help us achieve everything that is good—money, meaningful work, social acceptance and security. Never mind that our current education system teaches us to memorize facts and repeat them on tests, rather than teaches us to use our innate, creative nature to figure out what life is all about. This theme gets ratcheted up even more when we get into the workplace where we are further rewarded for being followers rather than leaders. It’s all about being a team player. Our creativity is rewarded as long as it’s within certain parameters. Organizations are looking for those who will tweak what’s already there, not upset the status quo. We are rewarded for identifying those tweaks and we get extra points if it makes our boss look good. Positive affirmations are introduced at some point to give us something else that we must do to be acceptable.

I’m here to tell you that this is all a big lie. The big lie is that you are not powerful, or smart or good within your own right and that you must constantly repeat positive affirmations to have any kind of success. I’m here to tell you that if you buy into the fact that you are “less than” and that you must constantly work to make yourself acceptable, it benefits someone other than you. It benefits those who want you to sit quietly and study, toil silently at a dead-end job or warm a church pew and turn over your hard-earned money when the collection plate is passed. The lie is that there is something inherently wrong with you and it must be fixed. It is the concept upon which all religions are built.

Listening to those who tell us we are “less than” is the problem itself. We hear this from birth and it is constantly reinforced throughout our lives. Every time we hear it, we repeat it to ourselves and a sort of imprint is made in our brain, in our physical bodies, in our very souls. Pretty soon the imprints take hold and form our belief system. So even if you practice those positive affirmations every morning, noon and night, even if you valiantly try to keep all your thoughts positive, you won’t be able to change your beliefs because it is stored inside you at an energetic level (more about this later).

Think about this—what if you possess right now everything you need to be successful? What is it that keeps you from accessing it? Here is one of my favorite quotes:

"It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. We ask  ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won't feel unsure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. As we let our own Light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Marianne Williamson, from her book A Return to Love

I have a different concept of God than most people. I believe that God is actually a sum total of all of our consciousness, not some abstract being that has power or dominion over us or this world. The proof of this for me is that we have free will. How can we have free will if there is an omniscient, omnipotent being with power over us? More proof to me is that if God is the sum total of all of our consciousness, then that sum total includes even those who benefit when some of us feel small. It explains a lot. It explains our imperfect world of violence, hatred, disease, war, famine, etc. It makes the case why we have to somehow overcome the programming we’ve received telling us we are broken and need to be fixed so that our world can finally become a better place.

As I mentioned, this programming has become embedded within us at an energetic level. These beliefs are stored as energy patterns within the cells of our body, not just the brain itself and that's why positive affirmations don't always work. That’s what causes us to attract what we don’t want rather than what we do want. It’s like a computer virus that has infected a few computers on a computer network. The virus multiplies until all computers are infected and eventually the server itself becomes corrupted. Just cleaning one or a few computers will have no effect at fixing the problem, just as repeating some positive affirmations won’t fix it either; it must be addressed in a more holistic way.

As such we have to change our core beliefs at the energetic level for us to realize lasting change in our lives. How do we do this? It’s by keeping your frequency high. All of our self-limiting beliefs are fear-based and inherently of a low frequency. These low frequencies are what keep us caught in a cycle of worry, fear, uncertainty, low achievement, hit-and-miss success, anger, separation, etc. 

You can Shift your Core Beliefs

Exercise: Shifting Your Core Beliefs from Negative to Positive 

First, take time to listen to some great instrumental music, really concentrating on the music itself. You can find some great selections here. This music will open your body and mind to new possibilities.

The next time you experience a self-limiting belief, observe how your body feels. You may feel something in your stomach, your heart area or perhaps your back. That’s how you know that these low frequency patterns are stored in the various parts of your physical body. Take a couple of really deep breaths as you take a few minutes to concentrate on that part of your body where the low frequency exists. If you can’t feel it, just guess where it might exist and direct your thoughts there. Do this for a few minutes and let the feeling get bigger. After a few minutes of this, you will feel that the feeling is starting to dissipate. Let it dissipate and go away. Congratulations! You have successfully released the low frequency pattern that is holding you back.

Now think about a time in your life that you felt really good about yourself—your wedding day, graduation day, the birth of a child, a wonderful vacation, when you helped out a friend, whatever that means for you. Re-create that feeling inside of yourself. Take a few minutes to really experience and enjoy that wonderful feeling. Let it get as big as you can make it. Now go about your day. Any time you find yourself encountering one of those dreadful self-limiting beliefs, immediately shift your thoughts to a time when you felt good about yourself. Keep doing this and it will become a habit. If you keep your frequency consistently high, those low frequency patterns cannot affect your life.

The next time you think you need to repeat some positive affirmations, try the above method for raising your frequency instead. You are helping the world as a whole when you keep your frequency high, as we are the sum total of all of the frequencies that we experience. Plus, you’ll soon find that you’re hooked on the high frequency patterns and you will want to stay there all the time. Go ahead and enjoy it—you deserve to be in that space all the time.

If you try this method, I would love to hear from you as to how it worked. Please contact me here.

Click below for some Related Articles about Self Motivation:

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The Meaning of Success is Exclusively Yours! 

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Procrastination – Deal With It By Finding the Reason Behind it 

Positive Self Talk Will Keep You Motivated

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My name is Carolyn Jolly. My professional life has been in sales, marketing and IT management. Along the way I’ve been studying and experimenting with self improvement and personal development techniques for the past 20 years. I have had more than a few mind-blowing experiences and I’ve made some discoveries that have shaped my ideas. I’m now using this website to pass those ideas along.

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