The Search for Inner Peace
Requires Your Commitment
Many people are engaged in a search for inner peace as they seek to
escape our high pressure world. To find inner peace, it is helpful to
take a look at your life and make some changes. Inner peace isn’t
something to be added to your to-do list, rather it’s about finding the
time to learn to relax and have time for you. I have listed seven ways
to prepare for a spiritual journey to find inner peace.
Seven Ways to Prepare You for Your Search for Inner Peace
- In your
search for inner peace
you should learn to
Figure out what is really necessary and what isn’t. For example, will
the world come to an end if your bed isn’t made every day? Who walks
into your bedroom to see it when you’re not there? If you can’t stand
not to make your bed, invest in a duvet cover that hides the whole messy
bed. Get a basket for mail and go through it one day a week instead of
doing it every day. You’ll save time on this chore overall. Get an
online banking service if you haven’t already and set your recurring
bills up to pay automatically so you only have to do a quick check or
change rather than entering every bill every time. If you can, invest in
clothes that don’t have to be dry-cleaned. You won’t have to make so
many trips to the dry cleaner and you’ll save money too. For example,
when I worked every day in an office and wore silk blouses or tops with
my suits I found that what needed to be cleaned every week were the
tops. I discovered I could wash them in my washing machine on gentle
cycle with cold water wash and put them out to dry once a week. I always
had fresh silk tops (without that dry cleaning fluid smell) with no
- In your search for inner peace you should write down your worries.
Make a list of everything that worries you and stream your worries into
three columns on three separate sheets of paper—“likely to happen”,
“unlikely to happen”, and “ridiculous”. Take the “unlikely” and
“ridiculous” sheets and wad them up and throw them away. They don’t
deserve your time and attention, as they are at least unlikely to
happen. Now take the “likely to happen” list and make a list of things
you can do to minimize the likelihood that they will happen. Work that
list of things into your list of goals and start working on them. Now
forget about ALL your worries because you’ve discarded the unlikely and
done everything you can to minimize the likely.
- Your search for inner peace includes getting organized.
Leave a white or blackboard in your kitchen for everyone in the family
to write down items they need from the supermarket, drugstore, dry
cleaning trips etc. Make one trip for all these errands, or get a
delivery service. Assign someone to run the errand or place the web
order as needed. Pick your work outfits on Sunday night and arrange the
items in order in your closet, along with the appropriate shoes and
accessories. Make a meal plan for the week and stick to it. If you know
that you will eat out two nights during the week, be honest about that
and put it on the list; you are more likely to stick to just two nights
out if you do this rather than becoming stressed and end up eating out
every night. Make a to-do list of anything and everything that needs to
be done this week. Do it on your computer and just modify last week’s
list to save time. Get up early enough to make sure you have your act
together in the morning.
- Your search for inner peace includes recruiting help.
Consider using a grocery delivery service. Most areas have grocery
stores that provide this service for a small fee. Recruit your family’s
help. Figure out what chores the kids can do and make sure they complete
them. This can include helping to prepare dinner or packing their own
lunch. There are lots of recipes that are simple and safe enough for
kids to assist. Make them responsible for their rooms and other assigned
chores outside of their rooms; and no allowance if they fall down on
the job. If you need freshly laundered shirts or blouses every week,
send them out. If you can afford it, by all means hire a weekly or
bi-weekly cleaning service and gardener.
- In your search for inner peace you should focus your activities.
Write down all your activities and rank them based on how necessary or
how much pleasure they give you. And then cut those activities down to a
reasonable number. If you work full-time, this is probably two outside
activities. If someone else’s activities are messing with your ability
to find peace, write down their activities as well. If you find your
children have more than two simultaneous extracurricular activities,
it’s time to have them choose their favorites. This will be good
training for their adult life when they will have to make these choices
just as you are making them now. It also helps them to focus their
energy into their chosen areas and to give them a sense of peace as
- Your search for inner peace is going to
include turning off your cell phone, PDA and email when you get home
from work and insist that others do also. Very little that happens
in life needs your attention right now instead of the next morning. When
people find out that you have times when you are unreachable, they will
find a way to solve their own problems without disturbing you. For real
emergencies, there is your land line. If you have become a social
networking junkie, you must tear yourself away from the computer during
off hours. If you don’t you are giving your kids a terrible example to
follow. If it’s not essential to your job to participate, start to limit
yourself to one hour per week checking the social networking sites.
- In your search for inner peace, I give you permission to abandon the
people in your life. Figure out who the toxic people are and start
to limit your exposure to them. This should include anyone who calls too
often or talks too long. This can be tough because sometimes they are
family members! Evaluate which people in your life make you feel “less
than” when you are around them. You really have no use for them and if
you are hanging on to these relationships it must be due to your own
guilt or lack of self-esteem. So be brutal when evaluating who should
stay and who should go! Then be a lot gentler as you start to pull away.
Being around them may be tough, but it’s best to drift away slowly
rather than to provoke a confrontation—this will help a lot with your
search for inner peace. If the toxic person happens to be your boss or a
co-worker you cannot escape, it’s time to make one of those
extracurricular activities looking for a new job!
Making changes in these seven areas will help in your search for inner
peace. Once you have made some of these life changes, you will find
yourself relaxing more and starting to enjoy your life. You will also
have the time and space in your life to find
inner peace from a spiritual perspective.
I hope you enjoyed this page. If you have comments or questions, I would love to hear from you.
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